At risk of silence and slander, what are we to do? Increasingly there have been stories in the news rags about Post Partum Depression, Bi Polar disorder etc. There are many stories about women with Munchhausen disease hurting children for attention. Mothers are killing their children or attempting it all across our country. Here is an article from this morning http://www.cbs46.com/news/17767898/detail.html This woman wasn’t even charged with attempted murder. Of course, these enemies of the state are finding leniency in their home courts and police departments. Why? What do they do with men that commit the same crimes? Why does there seem to be an increase in this type of crime when there are more programs than ever available to help women with children? Another side is this….. http://www.cnn.com/2008/HEALTH/family/10/17/parenting.moms.jealous/index.html Why does the author think there should be a competition for the affection and respect of her child? Why is there an decrease in vaginal delivery and time spent breast feeding? Why are women claiming that there are mixed messages for being a mom? Where do these mixed messages come from? On a personal level I am concerned for not only the safety and well being of my child, I am concerned for the mental health of my ex-wife. I will never forget the domestic violence charge I received as a result of defending myself while getting my child out of the house because she had a manic episode combined with mass amounts of alcohol. Will never forget the time I came home on a Saturday afternoon to find bags of groceries burning on top of our cooking range. She was upstairs taking a nap as was my child who’s room was directly above the stove. She breast fed for 2.5 weeks, had a c section, had ppd which later spiraled into bi-polar disorder even though she was on medication. I will never forget the sexual misconduct and promiscuous behavior with none other than our next door neighbor. Will never forget the huge amounts of money and financial problems associated with this woman at a time when all of our financial futures are in question. All this and not one hiccup at work? In fact….she got three promotions in our time together. I don’t normally write about this kind of stuff but feel that it is becoming increasingly relevant. If you don’t like my story……look these subjects up on the Internet….there are tons of them. In order to understand the ideology, I recommend starting here http://www.nytimes.com/2005/10/30/magazine/30feminism.html
You (the reader) may ask yourself some questions. Why am I writing this? I certainly don’t desire a costly custody battle. I just want to know the same thing that a lot of other men want to know. What happened to my beautiful and smart friend? Fear isn’t the only thing I saw inside. There is an inherently good person with enormous potential and a bright future. Through examination and understanding I want to alleviate anxiety. Just using my compass to find my way out of the woods. Pyper Davis says, “push women off that throne, this is not “taking over”: rather, it is a movement toward a truly egalitarian union between husband and wife. Which, of course, is the last thing many women want, including the most vocal “gender-rights” activists. Since the 70s, women have been encouraged to believe that it is their prerogative to gain freedoms and choices without surrendering old privileges that were the flipside of the narrow niche in which they were confined. Ever increasing freedom and recognition, without a bit of concession; and men’s responsibilities and expectations continue to expand, even as the old expectations die hard, if they die at all.”
So? Lets work it out….whether in public or in private. The time for marriage is over but how are we to move forward as co-parents when we haven’t even begun to deal with our disastrous marriage?
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